Using Coercion and Threats
- Making and/or carrying out threats to do something to hurt her/him
- Threatening to live her/him, to commit suicide, to report her/him to welfare
- Making her/him drop charges
- Making her/him do illegal things
Using Intimidation
Making her/him afriad by using actions, looks, gestures
Smashing things
Destroying her/his property
Abusing pets
Displaying weapons
Using Emotional Abuse
Putting her/him down
Making her/him feel bad about herself/himself
Calling her/him names
Making him/her think she's/he's crazy
Playing mind games
Humiliating her/him
Making her/him feel guilty
Using Isolation
Controlling what she/he does, who she/he sees and talks to, what she/he reads, where she/he goes
Limiting her/his outside involvement
Using jealousy to justify actions
Minimizing, Denying and Blaming
Making light of the abuse and not taking her/his concerns about it seriously
Saying the abuse didn't happen
Shifting responsibility for abusive behavior
Saying she/he caused it
Using Children
Making her/him feel guilty about the children
Using the children to relay messages
Using visitation to harass her/him
Threatening to take the children away
Using Male Privilege
Treating her/him like a servant
Making all the big decisions
Acting like the "master of the castle"
Being the one to define men's and women's roles
Using Economic Abuse
Preventing her/him from getting or keeping a job
Making her/him ask for money
Giving her/him an allowance
Taking her/his money
Not letting her/him know about or have access to family income